When working with others on a project, I am finding that it annoys me when people make suggestions by asking "What if we tried it this way?" I realize they are only making a suggestion, but when others ask in that manner, I feel compelled to answer. Being a person that has a knack for details, more often than not people don't like my response. It's not that I don't like their idea, it's just that I quickly evaluate the idea because the question prompted me to. Most of the time when someone asks that question, it seems they are looking for positive reinforcement.
The question suggests that people are not really sure about their idea, but it's rare when that is actually the case. People use that question as a lead to present their ideas so they don't seem overbearing or forceful, but often they are very passionate about their idea to begin with. I've noticed the question usually sets up a "me vs you" conversation because people mistakenly ask that question to make a suggestion. The problem is that it's not actually a suggestion because it's still a question. There are those, however, who are sincerely looking for an evaluation of the idea rather than actually making a suggestion.
If you have a suggestion, make it clear. When you suggest an idea, say "I suggest doing this because.... Now, how can we improve on this idea?" It makes you sound confident but at the same time realizing there is room for improvement while also inviting others to take ownership of the idea.
Also, remember that feedback is part of the process. Don't make a suggestion if you're not prepared to hear how bad it could be. Get over your ego.
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I played flag football with 20+ guys from work on Saturday. We've been playing every other week for the last two months and have had a lot of fun. A broken finger, some pulled muscles, and a lot of soreness is the extent of our injuries, but it's all worth it.
I will say Monday mornings at work are humorous, now. Everyone is
walking hobbling and limping while retelling the top plays from Saturday. From our stories, you'd think we could beat the Tennessee Titans. Although, that may not be such a stretch this season considering they are 0-5.